my story of…

Love, Loss, Healing and Triumph

In the early morning hours of June 24, 2017, my husband, Bobby, took his last breath, in spite of the gallant efforts to save his life.

I heard the words… “I’m sorry. There is nothing more we can do.”

I was in shock. I could not wrap my head around the fact that my beloved life partner and best friend was gone.

Bobby Lewis

February 3, 1951 – June 24, 2017

Bobby Lewis - Feb 3, 1951 - June 24, 2017

Ours was a marriage filled with love, laughter and friendship. How could this unthinkable thing happen? How could this seemingly healthy, beautiful man die without warning?

From that terrible moment on life was a blur of pain, sorrow, fear and anxiety.

As the days dragged by, I moved through them like a robot… numb… merely going through the motions. The sun shined brightly every day, but my world was gray and hopeless, and it stayed that way for months and months — until the day I decided to start living again.

A trusted friend suggested that counseling might help. Her suggestion led me to two women who proved to be a perfect match for me.

After beginning our work together, something miraculous happened…

I started to feel better. The numbness lifted and I began to feel hopeful again. My broken spirit was beginning to be restored, and my resilience was growing stronger.

Losing Bobby was a transformational moment. I couldn’t go back to what I was doing before — I knew the next phase of my life was meant to help others live in their vision.

The worst experience in my life opened a whole new chapter of life — one filled with purpose and joy.

And, a private, online community called The Second Act, came to life. It is for people who need a safe place of sharing, compassion, encouragement, and courage.

Bobby Lewis
Bobby Lewis - Tone Twisters

Life after loss

It has been a few years since my love left this earth…

The memories remain, he rarely leaves my thoughts, and he is loved and missed beyond measure.

Still, the one thing I feel certain of is that if he’s watching, and he is proud of me for doing my best to live my best life.

I’m living proof that it’s possible to heal, rebuild and live a purposeful life. You can do the same and quite possibly become a better version of yourself in the process. You won’t ever be the same. You will never forget. Yet, you can embrace life and be whole again.

Bobby Lewis

Moving forward

Following my husband’s death, my perception of what I want for my life changed drastically. That experience, along with some professional training, helps me understand what you’re going through.

Sometimes there’s only one way through your pain and that’s sharing it with others. When you talk about it, you’ll be amazed at how supportive people are. Sharing reduces your pain and increases happiness.

The sooner you start sharing your experiences… your ups and downs… what you’ learned… whatever it is… the faster you’ll grow.

Maybe the last thing you want is to talk with anyone. But… I hope you will reach out anyway. You need to. You will feel better for it.

I hope you will join The Second Act community and share your story. You don’t know who it might help. And tell someone who is struggling, or knows someone who is struggling, about this community.

Help and support can change your life in ways you can’t possibly imagine or foresee.